Over the years of writing Baggage Reclaim, I’ve heard from many women and men who have been left empty handed, duped, disillusioned, distraught, angry and a plethora of negative emotions after being involved in an affair.
While many of these people feel awful about deviating so far from their personal values that they wound up not only in a deception but often ended up feeling emotionally bankrupt, there’s also a significant chunk of people who while they may feel aggrieved at deviating from their values, their grievances are focused on the ‘deal’ not coming through. As the Other Woman/Man, you’re under the impression, even if it’s not directly stated, that for your participation, which as a result of deviating from your values may feel monumental, you’re going to share the ‘takings’ between you and run off into the sunset.
Partly cloudy skies early will give way to cloudy skies late.
If you’re anything like I was, you’ll think that you’re the one they’re being honest with. Of course some base their reasoning on a complex framework of lies and so will stubbornly cling to their lies, because to let go, would be to place the responsibility and accountability on themselves that they seek to dodge. You got played, even though they may deny it and claim that they really meant to cut you in, but something came up, or you ‘did’ something, or some other lame excuse. Don’t get me wrong – they’ll have done their wheeler-dealing, lying, omission, and even pressuring, but you knew that there were a lot of things wrong with this situation and you’ve also lied to yourself. My anger and indignation gradually gave way to grudging and then welcomed responsibility when I realised that I’d known what I was dealing with – I had just hoped to be exempt.Some of you may have actually started out feeling like you were the more ‘powerful’ party in this. It may not be today, it may not be tomorrow but it will be soon enough unless you’re pulling an ostrich and holding on tight come rain, hail, shine, or the next decade. If you’re still angry about the fact that you’re not still with them while they cheat, or are angry that they haven’t left, you’re missing the point – it was an affair.They were chasing you and you could take it or leave it. If you’re still angry, your moral code hasn’t caught up with you yet.The top site for Transsexual personals, Transvestite dating, Crossdresser personals, Transexual dating, Transgender personals, Shemale dating, Transvestite personals, Transsexual dating, Crossdresser personals and Transexual personals on the internet!LVTG was designed and developed to fulfill an important and missing need in the transgender community.This website really knows what it's doing and it gives you all the tools you need to score.